What Matters Most


I found out an hour ago one of  my friends passed away last week. It’s a shock. And finding out a week after the fact is somewhat normal when you live on the other side of the world.

I was just thinking about his life, his family, and his friends and thinking about how short life is. Life is fragile and so temporary.

Ten minutes ago I did a google search of his name to try to find some information on what happened. I came across the local obituary from back home to discover another friend passed away last week also.


I don’t like to think of news like this. Does anyone? It hurts, and it’s not comfortable. But it does help me to spend some time thinking about it.

It helps remind me to take time for what matters most.

Here’s my top 3 of what matters most:

1 – Time

I heard someone say you spell love t-i-m-e. I think that’s true. Time is more valuable than money. We can always make more money can’t we? But we can’t make more time. Once time is gone, you can’t get it back.

Do we spend our time on what matters most? For me, what matters most, is my relationship with the Lord. I constantly tell my kids that I love them but I love God more, and He loves them even more than I do.

Now, my daughter constantly tells me the same thing. And I love it. But if I claim to love Him so much, why is it so easy to give my time to other things and not Him?

Don’t worry, I give plenty of time to doing things for Him. But what about just being with Him?

My being with Him will produce greater things done for Him than my doing things for Him without being with Him.

You might want to read that one more time.

2 – Time

Number two on my list of what matters most is time. Time with my family. I know plenty of “successful” pastors and professionals. Many maintain a focus on what matters most, but some sacrifice their families on the altar of success.

I made a commitment years ago that would not be me. I said I would cheat the church I had worked at if I had to before I cheated my family. I could always find another church to work at, but God’s only given me one wife and one son and one daughter.

I would not throw those most loyal to me and those who love me most under the church bus.

There’s just not enough time to do everything that needs to be done. And you will have to cheat someone or something.

Where do you cheat? What matters most?

3 – Time

Number three on my list of what matters most is time.

Do you see a pattern developing here? Time with friends.

A friend of mine named Jerry told me one time, “I have noticed that we all have a disease that we are dying from. And there is no cure. It’s called aging.” Jerry was right.

If something else doesn’t get us first, aging will. Do we value the friendships we have? How does our calendar reflect the value of the friends in our lives?

There are numerous individuals who support our ministry through monthly prayer and financial support. We are so blessed to have them in our lives. It never bothers me to ask someone to pray about coming on our monthly prayer and financial support team. One reason for this is because my wife and I support four missionaries on a monthly basis. We love to give. But again, it’s easier for us to give our money than our time.

If I give you my time, I’m giving you something that’s priceless.

Who do you give your time to? God? Your Family? Your Friends?

Hebrews 9:27 says, “And as it is appointed for men to die once, but after this the judgment”.

We all have an appointment with death. We will not be late. We will be right on time. Be a good steward of your time and live with no regrets.

Let’s focus on what matters most while we have…time.

This is just my top 3 list. What would your top 3 list be? What if you added a number four or number 5 to this list?